LISTEN TO YOUR OWN SELF TALK. DON'T THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU DON'T LIKE ABOUT YOURSELF OR DON'T WANT TO HAPPEN...THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU DO LIKE AND FOCUS ON WHAT YOU DO WANT...SIMPLY CHANGE THAT STUFF AND NOTICE WHAT CHANGES....IT MATTERS WHAT YOU FOCUS ON...THOUGHTS ARE THINGS WITH ENERGY AND THEY ATTRACT MORE OF THE SAME SO DON'T ATTRACT STUFF THAT YOU DON'T WANT AND YOU CAN CHANGE THE GAME....