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TOO GOOD, TO HATE!
Too Good, to Hate!
My wife and son, deserve this not;
They're too good, to be hated.
And did no mistakes, to be in;
Such a paltry condition!
I hate myself, as I take her love for granted;
My son never flinches though I am so ruthless;
What mistake had they done? I never knew;
May be, they were too good to me!
Twenty five years of marital life,
Was all her mistake?
Still I never compromised,
Even if I were at fault!
She desired nothing; but put up a smiling face;
She never pointed her fingers, even if others faulted;
The only desire, that she had was,
To be, too good to me and my son!
She put up a brave face, even at times of adversity;
And expected nothing, even from a sadist like me;
Always she said, “It’s me who should be good”
And not expect others to reciprocate!
What a son and lady I have!
For an abnormal fellow like me!
Should they be taken for granted?
‘Coz they are too good to me!
Trifle things make me really mad;
Trivial matters no doubt make me awful;
Yet, she is full of sheer sacrifice;
As she stands and delivers all that’s good.
No matter I think of what goodness is?
As madness peaks to its destructive worst;
Makes me mad, when I am neglected; and
I ignore the feelings of, my wife and son!
My wife and son never sulk;
As they know my temporary shift;
Try to do the damage control, and
Pray to God for peace at home!
Return of peace, is not so far away;
As they understand, who I am!
They just expect, the worst to seize;
And pray to God, expecting the best!
Should a man like me, be at fault?
On those who shower, their genuine love?
What a man am I?
Am I, the man without love?
For many people, it is very
For many people, it is very difficult to understand a culture other than one's own. I have witnessed the relationships of those from the far east and some parts of Europe where it is an honor for a woman to serve her family without question. I also seen that despite of it being a very different type of relationship than my American culture, there was a lot of love between the husband and his family. I try to have respect for all cultures and how they choose to raise their children and live their lives. I think in America we have proven that we know too little about marriage to be telling anyone what is the right way to be married. When I read this poem I felt that the writer feels a deep emotion about the way his wife has served him through the years, never asking question, just serving with love. I also sensed some regrets and feelings of helplessness about life in general, and the woman's role in building a family, but I don't know if that is just because I am American, or not? Anyway, Ben, it is a WONDERFUL poem. I would say, the best you have ever writtten!!! ~peace~
...and he asked her, "do you write poetry? Because I feel as if I am the ink that flows from your quill."
"No", she replied, "but I have experienced it. "
Love & Hate
You write really well sir !! On six plus decade of existence we can't afford to abandon our family. Alone for a few days will make your yearning freshen up. It happens to everyone at every age. Your family loves you and you love your family more thats for sure. God bless.
©bishu
Reply to Biswanathjee
As a person of Indian origin, you have understood and realised our actions and reactions at home. I don't know, how much others will be able to derive out of it. Nevertheless, I thank you so much for your appreciation and the hidden advice that's in.
Ben