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Marriage isn't for Me
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Apparently there is
a "new" post floating around.
A post about marriage
once again.
It seems to be a big buzz,
and part of it resonates with me.
Unfortunately, it stirs the wrong
message,
the overall thought.
Maybe it's just me,
but the wording is off
the mark.
I guess these thoughts
were just forgotten
and found again.
But these are the same words
used over and over again.
Unselfishness.
A no brainer if you will,
alas we do forget and
need to be reminded
from time to time.
That doesn't bother me,
"Marriage isn't about you"
does.
This is the theme of the thesis,
not being unselfish,
which should be known already.
Unless one doens't share vows
on their wedding day,
or immediately recants them.
I beg to differ.
Marriage is about "you."
Paul writes, "If you have burning passion,
then you ought to marry."
Nowhere does it say, "if she has passion."
It takes two to walk down the aisle,
just like it takes the same two
to make it work.
Yes, marriage is about
the other person,
putting her needs above my own,
making her happy,
sacrificing and compromising for
her needs.
Loving uncondtionally,
even when it's not easy.
But this should be basic
fundementals of a healthy marriage.
Why is this new?
Or how is not at least being
applied?
People will err in their ways,
and will forget at times,
but we have to lay oursleves aside
for the other person.
But to emphasize that
marriage isn't about you?
I strongly disagree.
If people applaud these words,
or cannot do things that they ought,
maybe they should be contemplating,
"marriage isn't for me."
Bold, honest, TRUTHFUL. I'm
Bold, honest, TRUTHFUL.
I'm not for or against marriage....it just means very little to me anymore. Love and love in action, kindness, respect, monogamy....means much more to me than marriage ever did. Marriage is obviously none of those things. It's just a formality that can make life easier in a lot legal areas at times...and at times it can make life more difficult in a lot of legal areas as well.
...and he asked her, "do you write poetry? Because I feel as if I am the ink that flows from your quill."
"No", she replied, "but I have experienced it. "
different opinion
Actually gonna comment for the first time in forever, to say that from a biblical standpoint, I'd argue this: everything we do should be for the glory of God. So marriage, His holy covenant, shouldn't be even about us, it should be about us demonstrating what Christ's love for the church looks like: which is where selflessness would come in. And most of my friends who I know who are going thru a divorce lately, have figured that the selfless part is a lot harder done than said. Just an opinion, of course, I totally respect yours.
um no
marriage has everything to do with us, as much as the 2nd person in it. Of course its more about the other person, but it takes each of us willingly to get married.
So it requires us to take the first step, of wanting to get married to whomever it is. But it starts with us, and not in a selfish way.
I like how you put that...
I like how you put that... and I would add.. it's no little penny annie decision. There is a whole lot to consider because our society has placed it up on a dam* pedestal for way too long instead of placing LOVE on the pedestal.
(Wanna get married?)
Lmao...just kidding!!
...and he asked her, "do you write poetry? Because I feel as if I am the ink that flows from your quill."
"No", she replied, "but I have experienced it. "
An honorable opinion, however
An honorable opinion, however there are some exemplary human beings out there who are not religious.
...and he asked her, "do you write poetry? Because I feel as if I am the ink that flows from your quill."
"No", she replied, "but I have experienced it. "