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Teen Dating



   I am only 18 years old with only 2 girlfriends ?under my belt?, I believe is the correct terminology, but I have already experienced the best and the worst of a relationship.  



TRUST



   My First girlfriend literally was my first in everything: sex, weed, living with her and such, and even breaking up/going back out (yo-yo relationships).  I went out with her for 2 years and lived with her for one out of those two.  I felt love, extreme addiction, and zealous love--whatever you wish to label it--I felt it.  It was all ruined 4 months into the relationship by a kiss.  Her mom had just signed a joint custody paper, allowing me to live and go to school with her, not even a week before.  On a snowy February afternoon in 2001, I walked the girl home (an old flame, I guess you could say) and about halfway I took her and gave her a long French kiss: she didn?t try to stop me and I didn?t hesitate? I kissed her again just before we got to her house (her Grandma?s) and walked back to the house? I told my girlfriend that I wasn?t sure about us (nothing about the kiss) and went to bed.  She was devastated by the fact of us breaking up but I held my own devastation: not telling her.  She found out the next day through on of the girl?s friends and gave me a bitch slap ?heard-round-the-school? as it came to be known by my friend and I.  I had it coming and I know that.  For months afterward, until we broke up in the summer, she would come crying into my room, pleading and guilting me, asking me why I had done what I had? I gave nothing but a shoulder and a blank stare.  I didn?t understand why she felt so horrible over a kiss? Up until a few weeks ago I never understood what and why she felt the way she did? then I thought back to our first kiss? I remembered how good I had felt, floating on air, happier than I had been in years? just as she had felt.  When the trust is gone in a relationship, the relationship is not trustworthy in its ability to last, guaranteed.  



DATING



   After my first relationship I moved onto shorter, less serious ?dating? but I was still inexperienced.  I had met a girl some months before me and my ex had gone out (not the one I kissed) and it seemed that she still liked me (and I had heard that, too, from friends) so I ?courted? her and we started to go out.  It lasted a week because of a lapse with my ex.  This happened 3 times before me and this girl went out and once after.  Obsession is tough but I will get into that later.  Her and me went back out the following week (3 days after our breakup) and things went fine until I moved a month later.  We are still going out but I don?t talk to her often, don?t see her often and I live 2 hours away.  After some time of thinking on the fact of dating (I had lots of time on my hands?the place I had moved to has NOTHING for MILES and MILES) and I came to a conclusion (with some help from my mom): avoid major commitment for as long as possible.  Teen Dating is just about that?Teen ? short-lived, intense or maybe even just not-so-serious?Dating ? a learning experience, building your knowledge of dating in general and dealing with the opposite sex in future relationships/committments.  In other words, have 2 different partners, so to speak.  For example, lets say you know a person who just likes to be taken out every once in awhile or maybe you know someone who just likes ?a good time??what would you want to do?  Monogamy?  A One Night Stand?  I myself can?t do a one-nighter, go figure.  But Monogamy actually scares me to some level because of the fears: obsession and hurt.  So this, for me, just seems like the best way to run it.  Instead of becoming afraid of dating in general?or becoming a player (I hate them)?this, to me, just seems like the most logical solution.  And it makes sense?who in the hell wants Monogamy at this age??  Such a serious, limiting relationship at such a young age just seems to silly.  I do see the importance of Monogamy and the damage that can be done when that valuable trust is betrayed, even in the smallest of instances.  But I am saying that you should enjoy your younger, vigorous years with not Monogamy in mind but with learning and fun.  Don?t limit yourself to just one person but don?t have a harem to yourself?if you?re able to, more power to ya?but just to enjoy dating in general.