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I've known my ex husband for nearly 20 years. I would like to think we were friends before we started a relationship & remained friends through most of our relationship. Most of you also know that Jamie & my marriage ended due to infidelity (mainly; there were other problems, but the infidelity was the last straw). Shortly after our separation & divorce, he moved in with & married this woman (they had a child while he & I were still married).



Needless to say, things are going that great for them. They have had financial problems (he's not good with managing money & apparently neither is she) & other issues. Of course, I'm only hearing one side of the story, but it is clear that things aren't going well. He's been talking about a 2nd divorce for about a year now.



From time to time, when things are really bad & he needs someone to talk to or get advice from, he calls me. Yep, me. I try to stay out of their personal affairs & never question him about her or their relationship. The only things I'm aware of are what he's told me (like their financial problems, the fact that he's not sure the kid is his, that he feels she keeps trying to get him to back to being a long distance truck driver so she can get the paycheck but not have to deal with him, etc). She called me once a few months after I'd put him out & asked me to take him back, telling me that where he really wants to be is with his family. I'm not going to go into my response to her, but she hasn't picked up the phone to call me since. Hehehe (James Evans laugh).



Sometimes I feel a little sorry for him (just a little bit). Other times, I'm thinking "N****, please. You coming to me with this for real?!" A lot of people (myself included) believe that he's reaping what he sowed. He says that too sometimes.



Just the other day he was going on about a disagreement they'd had. He was telling me that he doesn't even tell his momma the stuff he tells me. He said that I always give him the truth; straight up, no chaser & that's why he comes to me. He's not the type to open up to his friends about things like this, and he doesn't have any siblings. So I guess he needs someone, but me?



Sometimes it doesn't bother me. I try to be a listening ear, or give as objective advice as I can (it ain't always easy). Then there are times when I'm really bothered by the stuff he tells me & some of it brings up all the hurt & pain he put me through (cuz for real this is the same broad you cheated on me with). I don't want to be cold-hearted & I know everyone needs someone, but I just don't know....



By choice I don't confide in him with my "man" problems (or anything else for that matter). I doubt he wants to hear it & don't feel that any advice he'd give would be useful anyway.





What are your thoughts?