There are moments where I allow myself to be vulnerable
This wasn't always my way of responding to things
I went through periods of over-trusting people and then trusting no one
It took someone very strong, unique and intelligent to break that habit of mine
I used to spin so many webs of lies, I didn't know who I'd told what to
He always saw through them.
He never let me pretend I was, who I wasn't.
We fought like untrained cats and dogs in the worst possible weather
But he brought out the best things in me
I can never really repay him for that
He'll never know it because by the time my hindsight was 20/20
We were already in two separate places
There was no going back
He solved so many of the daddy-issues I didn't realize I had
Without him, I might still be that girl... pretending she is a woman
Without him, I wouldn't know the half of what it means to truly love someone
Without him, I would still be shaming myself and seeking validation in all the wrong places
I still think of him often
I still try to check in with him from time to time
Even though it will never be what I always hoped it would be
I don't hope for that anymore
I only love him for exactly who he is
I hope he finds what he's looking for
There's moments where I allow myself to be vulnerable for the sake of letting others know more about the real me
This is my way of leading by example, to show them how much better One can be
But the choice isn't easy, and the work never ends
You can't blame anything on others, whether they're foe or they're friends
You gotta stand up real tall, and say... Yes, my perceptions were wrong
You must admit you don't know it all, you've been blind all along
This very action is what makes one strong
When you face all your weaknesses
Finally being where you belong
There's moments where you must allow yourself to be vulnerable for the sake of others
Except-- there are no words in these moments
They are yours alone, in self-reflection
Accepting what you're doing without seeking
Self fulfillment and selfish satisfaction
So, to end these ideas that are flowing from me.
I'm going to continue to lead by example, and accept whoever you choose to be.