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GOODBYE LETTER TO MY OLD CHURCH HOME
First off, thank you for your wonderful letters. I feel at this time it is in my best interest to no longer be attending services at your place of worship. I am not comfortable being around my ex and the continual untruths she keeps telling my friends and family. I am most uncomfortable being around my ex abuser in a church setting or any other setting for that matter, so it is with great regret that I send this letter. It appears that every time I get away from Stacy and push her negativity away she keeps messing with me. Today she went to my mother and apologized and my mother confronted her on what happened and she denied it to my mother and told her that she didn’t so those things and my mother confronted on things she had said in her, (my mother’s) very house. I guess I’m just odd, when it’s over it’s over. I don’t go to people friends and families and the one time I did it was for the protection of my family, and me but yet I got no protection. I just want to have my life back. Be at peace and all I hear is her saying I’m doing all things but I’d like to know when I have time and with what she (allegedly) did and said to my child he can never get his childhood back and would rather his mother move to another state than to live here in Kansas. I quit going places because I got tired of the lies and the mess to include there, and visiting my mother in Newton because I am so tired of going places and hearing Stacy said this and that. I work two jobs, am working towards a law degree, currently serving as a secretary for a non-Profit, added to a new relationship and being a mom. I don’t have time for this drama anymore. I’m just at a loss. I feel victimized all over again every time I set foot in the church so against what I would have preferred to do we started attending other churches to find a new church home. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I left the relationship because I got tired of the abuse and now I’m still being abused by this person who keeps telling people nothing happened or that I caused it. A person who told me I deserved being raped when I was in the military. I can’t deal with this anymore, but I do value our friendship. Keep us in prayer.
Oh, this woman sounds so dreadful. However, you have been such a good person to me, I'd hate for anyone to ever think any person would think ill of you for even mentioning such a terrible mess. The best thing to do my dear, is just to go on with your life and leave this woman out of your life. Why would you even post something so horrible and associate yourself with the likes of this monster. I lost my job recently and I've been reading a lot more on the Post, and there is much in your folder that is quite involved with other people and how you feel about them. I enjoyed your poem about the sweatlodge recently. It is good to get back to basics. I must admit, the unemployment is a bite in the bum, but it gives me time for perspective on life. Well, I hope all is well, and take care. Kathy Tannen