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The Pros and Cons of Direct Communication
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Quite often when I try to use direct communication I get labeled too harsh: "That DaddyO is just too insensitive!"
Or my favorite: "He is honest to a fault."
You see, I value innuendo and subtle sarcasm to break up the monotony of everyday life and people find I am quite well practiced in the use of these humorous communication techniques. Needless to say, I have had some problems with being understood in the past. My seriousness is questioned a LOT!
"He's joking, right?"
When one comes from a family where sarcasm and irony are the preferred forms of communication and my favorite comedians are George Carlin and Stephen Colbert, it becomes an automatic instinct to try to milk irony and sarcasm in others' words, even when it is not present. This gift (or curse) compounds my task of deciphering whether or not one is being direct with me.
Even if I could, I don't think I would want to change.
Too much direct communication breeds mundane, stale and unfunny "stick in the mud" types of people. These people unemotionally use a direct communication style all the time.
Oh I get it, let your "yes" be "yes" and your "no" be "no." But where would that get us if used exclusively?
When detailing a serious matter (and BDSM negotiations as well as relationships are serious matters), I certainly endorse using direct communion. But for everyday life, I say "learn how to laugh!"
