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It's funny how women can realize the value of being a good parent or at least attempting to be one, but men tend to see good parenting in dollars and cents. They seem to forget the importance of a child having mental development and emotional support. They seem to forget that being a good parent is more than how much money is in your bank account, but how much money you've spent to make sure your child is healthy, happy, and loved. They seem to forget that parenting is more than playing with them a couple of days a week for not even an hour at a time, but all those moments throughout the day when you're teaching them words to say, things not to touch, taking bad things out of their hands and mouths, holding them, hugging and kissing them, changing their diapers, feeding them, etc. It is so much more than money or how much time you spend at your "job." It's all those moments in life when you look at your child and know God has given you the world and it now your time in life to pass on what you know, learn what you don't know, and expand your mind and arms to new experiences. It's all about taking care of your child and doing what's right for him/her. It's about you and what you want or what you need. That's secondary. Your child is primary and the moment you accept that is the moment that you truly love your child and are a parent. There are no times of the day when you don't think about if your son/daughter is happy, healthy, loved, fed, etc. There isn't a second you don't spend with your child that you're not thinking about him/her or dreaming of what lies ahead. There are no days or nights when your child gives you hugs, kisses, snuggles, or reaches for you whether physically or calling you that it doesn't effect the very core of your being and make you want to give him/her the world and everything else. There is no greater love than the love you feel for your child. Loving your parents or special someone or friends is close, but it is not the same and if you had to choose between your child and everyone else you would choose your child as would I. Nothing and no one means more to me than Conner and it's been that way since the moment I gave birth to him and realized God has given me the best present of all. As frustrated as I get with parenting I would never give it up. It is definitely the hardest thing in the world I've done, but honestly I have no regrets of becoming a mother and I find nothing more rewarding than watching Conner grow and learn and development.