Learning is what is called for and useful,
in most situations we go through in this life
guilt and playing the blame game. . .
not so much!
Still this worlds usage of negative reinforcement
to keep people in line is so dominant
so prevalent
that we can hardly escape the result that has been so programmed into us.
So I guess the growth, the strides we make in this area
would have to be measured in
do we at some point realize the futility
and resolve to discard those results in favor of some
that are more constructive and beneficial!