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I’d like to speak on the responsibility to that comes with maintaining a relationship. This topic came to mind because I am constantly told (I know for a fact a lot of you are too) that I am a good woman with a lot of great qualities. I think most men would agree that a hard-working, honest, family-oriented, loyal and attractive woman would be a great catch. A lot of the ladies are looking for the same things in a man. Right ladies?



When talking to single men and women I often hear {long, detailed, specific} lists of qualities they are looking for (if not flat out requiring) in a mate. Rarely do I hear what they are prepared to do maintain the relationship when they find the person they are looking for.



When I listen to a man or woman go on and on about what they are looking for in a mate I often wonder if he or she has taken the time to think what it takes to get & keep a person like that. Do they ask themselves {or that person for that matter} what he/she needs/requires from a mate?



Do they pause to think what a hard working, faithful, honest, dependable, good credit having, no baby mama/daddy drama having, bill paying, AND physically attractive person requires from a relationship? Do they take into consideration that the person they seek is also seeking some (if not all) of the exact same things in a mate?



I’m thinking no. I don’t believe many people are stopping to ask themselves, “If I get the person I’m after then what? Now that I’ve found ‘the one’ I’m looking for, am I prepared to be the person they need me to be?”  I believe if time was taken to ask those questions there would be a lot less one-sided and broken up relationships. I feel there would be a lot fewer complaints about relationships being too demanding & individuals getting frustrated.



To me getting a mate of high quality is the same as buying an expensive home with a massive yard or purchasing a high maintenance vehicle like a Lamborghini or a Maybach. Why buy that big beautiful home with the big yard if you’re not willing to work pay for it and keep it looking nice? Why waste money getting that Lamborghini or Maybach if you’re gonna groan & complain every time you have to get it maintenanced or neglect it all together?  



If you want (and acquire) nice things, you have to do what is required to maintain it & keep it nice. Right?







What are your thoughts?