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Recently two of the top radio stations in Atlanta (V103 & 107.9) were discussing an article about happily single women. Both of the radio personalities (both men) stated they there were not convinced that the women interviewed were as happily single as they claimed to be.



All of the women were educated & successfully employed. I did not see the article, but the men discussing it said they women were all attractive. One of the women interviewed was a 50-something African American doctor that had never been married & did not have children.



A portion of her interview was read on air. In it, she said she'd rather be happily single than unhappily married. She pointed out that she knew quite a few individuals that were married, but were still lonely & left feeling unsatisfied & unhappy. Some of them, she said, felt it was more convenient to stay in their marriages due to financial commitments, children, social status, etc.



Still, the two (male) radio personalities I heard discussing the article were convinced that this woman was not happily single, but had bitterly given up on love & finding a husband. Although, she did state in her article that she is & always has been open to marriage, she just never found the person that she wanted to marry. One of the radio personalities (Griff from 107.9) refused to believe the woman's comments & was convinced that in reality she is bitter & lonely.







I've read articles about women choosing to be single parents due to the lack of men unwilling to commit to fatherhood & marriage, and I personally know women that have made the decision that the single life is best for them.



I personally don't believe it is due to women bitterly giving up on love & finding husbands/long term mates. I believe the problem is the lack of men striving to be the "complete package." Much too often, I hear men saying what they will not do in a relationship instead of saying what they are willing to do to get & keep (a good woman).                  



For example, (1) the man that works (and by the grace of God) pays the bills he's responsible for thinks it's too much to ask for him to wash the cars, cut the grass, fix things around the house, & take out the trash too. (2) The guy that is willing to help out around the house doesn't want to work & thinks his job is to be the live-in butler/babysitter. Or the guy that dotes on the woman giving her all the love, attention & great sex she wants thinks that's all he has to do – his role is to play Casanova; nothing more.



It seems to that men are putting limits on what they are willing to do in their relationships/marriages.



Mind you, the women interviewed were all educated, employed successful women. Some were single mothers. So that means on a day to day basis, they are successfully managing to maintain careers, children, and single-handedly run a household (paying bills; fixing things).



Why would they need a man in their life that's only willing to do a portion of what they're already doing? If they are doing it all, why be with someone that is going to pick & choose what he is willing to do? Why would they be with someone that is only willing to do one (or some) of the things or their list of many?







What are your thoughts?



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